I guess grief comes out differently for everyone. It also seems to come out at different times for everyone as well. It’s impacted a lot in my life lately, hence the absence (although I know you’re probably tired of hearing excuses, but I’m going to do better. Promise.). I did, however, want to share this with you…
I was asked this week to write a little something for my home church. Well, I was asked to say something about Maw-Maw in relation to Mother’s Day. The preacher thought it would be nice seeing as how she was a very loved woman in the congregation. I knew that I surely couldn’t make it through reading anything as much as I wear my heart on my sleeve. Nonetheless, I agreed, with the condition that I didn’t have to read what I wrote. I thought all week about how to relate Maw-Maw to Mother’s Day when she was really my Grandmother. It wasn’t Grandparent’s day. It also seemed selfish to single her out on a day meant for mothers. But, she was a mother, and still lives on as one in my own mother’s heart.
I began to relate it to how women were created by God to be a motherly presence and guide us all in the eyes of Christ. I, myself, don’t have children, but that doesn’t mean that I haven’t acted as a Mother at some point in time to someone. I love everyone, and that in itself requires that motherly instinct. I started thinking about all of the mothers in the church. All of the wonderful memories they made for me growing up, and all of the protection they provided me at the same time.
This, my loyal friends, is what I ended up with today. Happy Mother’s Day to you all, whether you have children or not. Love your Mother today, and if she’s sadly physically gone from us, then have a talk with her today and know she is waiting for you with milk and cookies in Heaven.
This Mother’s Day won’t be like they have normally been in the past. Our family is missing a very important Mother. Things honestly haven’t been the same. I guess things aren’t supposed to be the same when a Mother passes away though. See, Maw-Maw was an integral part of our everyday lives. From the like clockwork phone calls at 9am, Noon, and 10pm every night between Mom and Maw-Maw, and then me at night. To the motherly advice that was always available when needed. We’re missing all of that, everyday. I, myself, am extremely fortunate to have my own Mother living, but I know she hurts today at the loss of her own. And I know that no amount of love and Happy Mother’s Day cards or flowers to the best Mom in the World will take away that pain.
When I relate Maw-Maw to Mother’s Day, I’m reminded that Maw-Maw was an example of what God put women on Earth to do. We are meant to be Mothers – to guide and encourage others in the name of Christ. Take for instance this beautiful church I grew up in. Whether someone had 5 children, or they had no children, they were all acting mothers at one point in time. It could have been as simple as just keeping an eye out when a little one was getting a little too close to the edge of the stage in the Fellowship Hall. No one knew you were keeping that eye out, but you know you did…and so did God.
Just as I know Maw-Maw was to most of you, I had many mothers at Shallowford, and I still have a place in my heart for all of you. I remember Choir…lots of mothers in our Choir helping me to hit the right notes in life and on the pew each Sunday. Mothers in Sunday School, especially my own, who I know was a mother to a lot of you out in the congregation today on Sunday mornings. There were Youth groups, fantastic Vacation Bible Schools, covered dish lunches after church, Girl Scouts held here, and lots of laughs. Church fellowship time was always my favorite where we were able to walk around and greet others before the Sermon began. Towards the end of my childhood, I found it incredibly difficult to leap over Maw-Maw and Paw-Paw and make it to hug the neck of every single person in Shallowford. If I didn’t make it to you every Sunday, well, the piano music just wasn’t ever long enough. It sure did make a nice backdrop though while going around hugging all of the Mothers in our church that I love.
At Mother’s Day, and always, I want to make sure you realize that mothers are all around you. Women are made special. We are a special gift from God. So whether we have children ourselves or not, it doesn’t mean we can’t be mothers in God’s eyes. It is, in the end, about loving others. And here at Shallowford, I have never felt a lack of love. To my mother, to all of the mothers in the audience, and to the mothers that are waiting in heaven for us with milk and cookies, I wish you all a very special Mother’s Day.
This mother loves her daughter with all her very being.
This is a very difficult time for you and your Mom. We all understand. Take the time you need to grieve as best you ca.
you are a beautiful lady. thank you